How can i remove this tattoo?

Hi! I am 21 & have my entire back tattooed -Yeah, the whole thing.. I got the first piece done for my 13th birthday. That piece was done by an amateur & ended up scarring horribly. I mean BAD. To this day the 4x4 tribal piece is easily irritated, always puffy & well.. scarred. I was so self conscious about it that I decided to add to it - aiming to take the focus away from the black scar.. So at 15 I added to it... I was involved with the wrong crowd of people at that time in my life & was exposed to heavily tattooed people so it was "no big deal" - Plus, this was a while ago & the removal procedures/theories were fairly new & extremely pricey! To make a long story short by 19 I had most of my back piece done. It is very colorful, containing: black, white, greywash, violets, turquoise, orange, green, red etc.. I am very very serious about removing it but am terrified of the scarring. Not so much the cost but the chance of a bad heal w/ scarring & tattoo traces unable to be removed. I really wish I would have never began this insane body modification as I am now a mature adult with a great corporate job, family responsibilities & the desire to be more feminine I guess - Not such a freakshow. It's like living two lives with this amount of " permanent art".. Thats just the thing - PERMANENT - Wasnt thinking about that @ 13...I know it sounds dumb & this probably isnt the forum to post my story in but I really want some "real" feedback. We all know that $$ is the name of the game & everyone will try to sell you something - especially when they can take advantage of others in such an emotional desperation oriented way.Can someone vouch for the removal on large long lived professional tattoo's?! How do I?